Speaking personally as an moderate observer to the spirited gender and ethics debate taking place at GameCritics.com, there's several interesting things to note. Despite one serving as a catalyst for the other, the heart of the topics raised by both Mike and Alex are tangents that don't directly conflict and intersect with one another. Both have both been accused of being "hostile" and both sides have made assumptions and generalizations about the other's underlying motivations based on "tone and tenor" and "privilege."
At GameCritics.com, we made diversity integral to our mission. If you value the diversity that enabled this discussion to take place between two divergent views then I ask that on some level, you find a way to respect and tolerate the other's position even if you don't agree with it.
Let your voice be heard, but be secure in your views and allow your comments to speak for themselves. At the same time, keep an open mind and listen to what others have to say. Appreciating the views of others makes us stronger and is essential to diversity and criticism. If that's not something you believe in, you've come to the wrong Web site.